20 Before 20 - Things that I learned before turning 20.

So, its my birthday next month, and as I laid down after a long hectic day, I realized that there were many things that I have learned in the past few years which has helped me grow. So, without wasting anytime I decided to share it with you guys.

These are the things which I have experienced myself and hence want to share it with you.

     You cannot make everyone happy. Sad but true, this is the first thing which I learned that you cannot make everyone happy, hence stop running behind people to make them happy, instead stop and make yourself happy and it will then automatically make everyone else happy around you.

                          

                         

     Not everyone is same. You may have a bad experiences with people, but trust me dude not everyone is same. Hence stop stereotyping people, instead go out, make new friends, meet new people, have new experiences and then you will understand that not everytime people are bad, but sometimes conditions can be bad too.                             

  Give time, some time. Ya, I know that we belong to a generation where waiting for something or someone is considered uncool, but as it is said in the Indian Culture “Sabar ka fal meetha hota hai”(fruit of patience is sweet),having patience bears amazing results. So, wait for your time to come.                                                                           

   My mom always says that “Kisi ke bagair kisi ki zindagi rukti nahi”(Life wont stop because someone is no more in your life). Yes, its true, people come and go but that don’t stops your life. So, instead of crying and hoping them back, move on with the flow of the life.            

                             

     You fall in love not once but many times. All those youngsters who are reading this, you may be in your early teenage and may already be having someone whom you consider the one whom you will love for the rest of the life, but let me tell you guys that its not always the case, there are time when you stop loving the person and trust me guys its ‘OK’ to feel like this

                                                                             

                              

        A real relationship is one which help you "GROW". You may be in a different kinds of relationship, but if that relationship does not allow you to grow, it’s a waste of time. So, if you are in a such a relationship be aware .!!,  any try to get out of it.

                                                                      

     All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy. If you are among those crowd of people who considers that having a good academics will help you get a good life ahead, then you are wrong my friend. If you don’t have that “extra” factor in you beside the academics then to survive in this outer cruel world will be the most difficult task, hence go out, learn something new, something unique that will help you for the rest for your life.   

                                                                    

                                                                                                                                                        

     Don’t neglect your hobby because of the academics. Hobbies are something which helps us to get relaxed at time of extensive pressure, hence never ever stop doing your hobby. No matter how busy you are at least give an hour in a week for your hobby as it will help you relax your stress.        

   Start building networks/contacts. As you grow you realize that friends are not the only people you will need in your life ahead, but also people from your work, or who are related to your profession. Hence stop being in your own comfortable world, get out, socialize with the people of your same profession and who knows you’ll find someone with whom you can start a million dollar company.

                                    

                         

    Your parents are always right, listen to them. Yes, it may sound annoying at times (especially at your teenage) but they have seen life more than you, and hence with more experience, they have better outlook of life, hence at least give a thought of what they are trying to say.

    Prioritize your career . Whatever you do, whomever you are with, start prioritizing your career than to anyone else, at least till the time you become independent of your daily needs, cause a good career is the only thing which is going to feed you the rest of your life.

    Start prioritizing the task and the people. Related to the point mentioned above, know who and what deserves your time and hence allocate it accordingly. Know the value of your time, how precious it is.Simply  giving your time to each and eveything will only waste it and hence you wont be able to achieve what you would have achieved.

    Know who deserves your time. As I told earlier, not everyone we meet is important. Hence know who among your acquaintance deserves your precious time.

                      

    Be selfish. Yes, it may sound rude but in order to achieve your goals, your aims, you will have to be selfish, as being selfish will help you to know the things on which you need to give time and hence you can make sure that you are achieving your goals.

    If you want to rise, first learn to fall. As it is said, “Failure is the first step towards success”, and it is absolutely true. If you want to be successful, first taste the failure, as experiencing failure will help you to know about your mistakes are and then will further help you to get better.

                        

    Keep it simple. Yes, don’t complicate life make it simple, if you miss someone, call, wanna meet, organize a get together, instead of waiting for the person to do the same. Simpler the life, more efficient you will be in your life.

    Work on fear. Lets face the fact everyone has fear of some or the other thing, but only the brave has the guts to conquer them. You don’t have to take a big step, instead take a small step steadily and consistently and one day you will conquer your fear. 

                                                                                                              

                          

     Explore yourself. I am among those persons who was not born with a talent, unlike who acquire them by going to different classes (like dance class, etc.) I was not even that willing to go to. So basically I must not have any talent, but that’s not the case. I recently found out that I am good at anchoring and hence will take the steps to improve it. So, explore yourself and you will be surprised of what all talents are hidden inside you.

                                                                                                                                                               

     Start saving. Instead of spending all the money you get, try to save a fixed percent of it every month and this habit of yours will have to be more financially stable.Saving from a very young age can help you be rich(or atleast help you buy the things you want ;) )

                                                                                                              

                    

    Be always alert. Lets face the reality, if you are not alert in this cruel world, the world will take no time in swallowing you up. So, be alert of your surroundings, people around you and then you wont be the one who will be made fool.