Men Can Cry?

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People are usually of a notion that living in a patriarchal society is difficult for women, but what people don’t realize is that it is equally difficult for men too. How?  Well, there are various instances of it and one of them is, it makes men emotionally numb.

“Mard ko dard nahi hota”, “Kya ladki jaisa rota hai”, are some of the few dialogues that a man gets to hear, nearly on a daily basis. But, are these dialogues really credible? Being in a patriarchal society it becomes a serious code of conduct for a man to not cry and be “strong”. From a very young age, boys are taught not to cry as that will make them look weak and vulnerable, but is this code of conduct and teaching correct?

Biologically both boy and girl are programmed to cry equally. Till the age of 5, both of them cry nearly equal times. So, what transpires around the age of 5 which makes boys “emotionally locked”? A simple explanation can be those teaching of the society which teaches men that anger is acceptable but not vulnerability. As a boy grows, he experiences that sharing his emotions and feelings is often related to being weak and is eventually ended at him getting ridiculed.

So, now the questions arise what can we do now to reverse this?

•        Start by helping yourself, if you feel like sharing your emotions don’t stop yourself just because of the fear of society.
•        Take your time and get an idea about your emotional status, stability, and intelligence.
•        Be confident about yourself and your feelings.
•       Ask people for their help.
•       Get comfortable with someone you trust.
•       Give time, some time.

In the end to conclude everything I just want to say     “ Duniya ka sabse bada hai ye rog, ki kya kahenge log”, so just be brave enough to accept your emotions and enjoy being yourself.

               

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I would really love to know how you handle your emotions, are you the one who hides everything, or you are the one who shares them? Share with me your thoughts and suggestions in the comment box below, until next time, ciao.